I think I might be living in my basement soon.
That's what I get for not hooking up with a Stern fan. My wife is the definition of familiarity breeding contempt. I am a easy going, warm, person - she has been really cold for years, we have appointment sex and now I am finally feed up.

I know WAAHH, WAAHH, I just know that if I was a prick we might still be together. She will probably end up with some asshole who will treat her like shit.
How do divorced guys stay close with their kids? I have two boys 13 and 4 and I spend alot of time with them now - What do I do now? My wife is on a buisness trip and I find myself wishing that her plane goes down - I am a sick fuck. Feel free to leave advice or to bash me for being a pussy.

Have you tried counseling?

"business trip": Slang for going somewhere to bang someone else.

I dunno man, live with anyone long enough and you either learn to live with em or want to fucking kill em. My wife isn't the best lay in the world so sex got old after the first 2-3 years and this year is our 10th. What do you do? Find someone else and start the whole cycle over again or just live with it and be miserable.

So far i've chosen miserable i guess.

Don't worry man, misery loves company! Same boat as you, sex went downhill, in our 8th year now.

I think I might be living in my basement soon.
That's what I get for not hooking up with a Stern fan. My wife is the definition of familiarity breeding contempt. I am a easy going, warm, person - she has been really cold for years, we have appointment sex and now I am finally feed up.

I know WAAHH, WAAHH, I just know that if I was a prick we might still be together. She will probably end up with some asshole who will treat her like shit.
How do divorced guys stay close with their kids? I have two boys 13 and 4 and I spend alot of time with them now - What do I do now? My wife is on a buisness trip and I find myself wishing that her plane goes down - I am a sick fuck. Feel free to leave advice or to bash me for being a pussy.

Just treat her like an asshole.
You said it yourself. Some women want to be dominated.
And will never admit to it.

No counseling - I don't think either of us want to save our marriage. I am not one for change but, there has to be something better. A while back I tried to get her to explain to me why she is so cold towards me, she couldn't - she apologized and promised to try - it only got worse. I'll be 40 in July and I don't want to continue like this.

I don't think her trip is a smokescreen for an affair - but many men smarter than me have been wrong before.

I think I might be living in my basement soon.
That's what I get for not hooking up with a Stern fan. My wife is the definition of familiarity breeding contempt. I am a easy going, warm, person - she has been really cold for years, we have appointment sex and now I am finally feed up.

I know WAAHH, WAAHH, I just know that if I was a prick we might still be together. She will probably end up with some asshole who will treat her like shit.
How do divorced guys stay close with their kids? I have two boys 13 and 4 and I spend alot of time with them now - What do I do now? My wife is on a buisness trip and I find myself wishing that her plane goes down - I am a sick fuck. Feel free to leave advice or to bash me for being a pussy.

Have you guys already decided on divorce?

Have you discussed your "issues"?

or is it just hopeless?

No counseling..blah blah blah?

No counseling - I don't think either of us want to save our marriage. I am not one for change but, there has to be something better. A while back I tried to get her to explain to me why she is so cold towards me, she couldn't - she apologized and promised to try - it only got worse. I'll be 40 in July and I don't want to continue like this.

I don't think her trip is a smokescreen for an affair - but many men smarter than me have been wrong before.

You should try to get your affairs in order then.. make sure you can get custody (partial or full)

hope that she's not cold and tries to screw you over.. heard too many stories of the guy getting screwed in these situations

devstorm-Treating another person like shit would go against my nature and I'd probably get ulcers and be even more miserable. Thanks for the suggestion.

Get out. Life is too short. There is still time to enjoy yourself. Unless, of course, you're old, fat, and ugly, in which case there isn't much point in joining the singles pool. It's a battlefield out there unless you've got the attitude and looks to handle it.

If you are really miserable, Mac.. you need to make a move.. sometimes people stay in a relationship just because they are afraid of change..

if you really feel you have tried everything to save your marriage, or if you believe that you don't want to bother, then make a move... file for divorce.

You never know.. this time next year, you could have found a nice warm girl who is a HS fan.. and be happy!

It's never too late to start over.. just make sure you don't stay somewhere you aren't happy .. do what is right for you

42D - Thanks, yeah, I plan on getting my shit together. She can be kind of heartless - her plane lands later today and we are supposed to talk without the kids around. I am not a rich guy, but I am concerned about losing my shit, my sons having to move out of their home and me trying to rebuild a life. :(

....when you get the ruling in court that the divorce is final and you walk out of the courtroom alone you will realize that YOU WON....

dvsmnstr - I like my car too much.
I am also just kidding

vineyardjoe - from what I have seen it takes a looong time for a divorce to conclude so when I do finally walk out of court I might have someone to walk out with me.

I think I might be living in my basement soon.
That's what I get for not hooking up with a Stern fan. My wife is the definition of familiarity breeding contempt. I am a easy going, warm, person - she has been really cold for years, we have appointment sex and now I am finally feed up.

I know WAAHH, WAAHH, I just know that if I was a prick we might still be together. She will probably end up with some asshole who will treat her like shit.
How do divorced guys stay close with their kids? I have two boys 13 and 4 and I spend alot of time with them now - What do I do now? My wife is on a buisness trip and I find myself wishing that her plane goes down - I am a sick fuck. Feel free to leave advice or to bash me for being a pussy.

dud i was close to moving out after the divorce i,m glad i didnt because once your out of the house you will not see you kids enough and it will drive you crazy i moved my shit downstairs and got to see my kid everyday and now a year later me and the ex get along great and im not going anywhere..the thing is you might think it better out there with new pussy and shit but its not because it all ends the same way.you have 2 kids you love so take a break for a bit move to another part of the house if you have to..in the long run it will work out and your kids will want you to stay ..believe me dude you leave and you will see you kids every other weekend if your lucky..good luck brother :cool:

Hmmm, I find this very interesting to see this on here today. I know someone in this situation.

Please read my words:

Move on...I can promise you what you find on the other side of the door will be so much better than being abused emotionally. You will find peace and freedom to actually be a great parent to your sons...and nothing is saying they won't be with you in the very near future.

For some reason, some married "people" think they are given a pass to be miserable to their spouses and children, just because they have a piece of paper saying they are married.

You know...life is so short, and there is just so much to see and do, and millions of reasons to be happy. Please try to just pull it together and enjoy your life. Don't let it pass by at the hands of some person that doesn't even appreciate or respect you.

A great question to ask yourself is:

When your son's grow up, would you want them to be married to a woman that treats them as badly as their mother treats their father?

Children do learn what they live. If you don't want to do it for yourself, do it for them.

God's Speed.

Don't sweat it. Remember you are a complete 100% fully functional human being. And you were just that before you met this significant other.

I am recently single from a 6yr relationship with one of the most beautiful and coolest women i've ever met. Can't have hard feelings. Seek out the positive experiences you've had, they can only help build you into a better singular being that i mentioned earlier. The second you look down, look back up and smile.

Not to mention you have children man. Just know you have the ability after divorce to use your time with them in a more nurturing way. Without the impending friction between you ard your wife, you will beable to truly be who you want to be.

dud i was close to moving out after the divorce i,m glad i didnt because once your out of the house you will not see you kids enough and it will drive you crazy i moved my shit downstairs and got to see my kid everyday and now a year later me and the ex get along great and im not going anywhere..the thing is you might think it better out there with new pussy and shit but its not because it all ends the same way.you have 2 kids you love so take a break for a bit move to another part of the house if you have to..in the long run it will work out and your kids will want you to stay ..believe me dude you leave and you will see you kids every other weekend if your lucky..good luck brother :cool:

It is becoming quite common to be granted "split custody" and it's actually healthier for the children than being in an environment of anger.

It's real cool that you worked it out though, Reverend. But many people are not as fortunate.

devstorm-Treating another person like shit would go against my nature and I'd probably get ulcers and be even more miserable. Thanks for the suggestion.

So screwing over your sons' (Especially a four year old??!!?) childhood is a better alternative? Be a dick for your kids' sake.

I think I might be living in my basement soon.
That's what I get for not hooking up with a Stern fan. My wife is the definition of familiarity breeding contempt. I am a easy going, warm, person - she has been really cold for years, we have appointment sex and now I am finally feed up.

I know WAAHH, WAAHH, I just know that if I was a prick we might still be together. She will probably end up with some asshole who will treat her like shit.
How do divorced guys stay close with their kids? I have two boys 13 and 4 and I spend alot of time with them now - What do I do now? My wife is on a buisness trip and I find myself wishing that her plane goes down - I am a sick fuck. Feel free to leave advice or to bash me for being a pussy.
Didn't you know? Marriage is the number one issue leading to divorce.

You sound like way too nice of a dude to be hanging around with a ice queen like that. Sad part is, most women seemingly want assholes and the nice guys get shit on. It's like they don't respect you unless your a dick and then just walk all over you. I guess the reason i immediately figured she was cheating on you was due to how you said she's cold. Most women are really cold when they are banging someone else as they kinda regard you as scum at that point and have lost all respect for you. I think i'd consider it a strong possibility at least.

Thanks Rev and lovenrockets - I don't want my sons to think that they should expect women to treat them like shit. I find myself trying to avoid confrontations with her, sometimes I feel like a kid that is going to get in trouble with their Mom when she is around. My oldest is getting sick of her shit and my little guy has already started telling her to stop being mean to me. I think I can't stay with her for their sake - she works in sales and has to be nice to people all day long, she says that when she gets home she doesn't feel like being nice anymore.

I respect what you are saying Rev, but she is the type that would make sure that I spend time with them just so I don't get over on her (that is how she thinks). I have spent very little time away from my boys and I know that I can create a better, more peaceful environment for them.
Hope you understand what I am saying devstorm.

Yeah, going the Levy route seems good if you can stay in the house.. you seem to love your kids a lot, and Levy is right, moving out means you wont see them that much.. that's gonna be really hard on the kids, and you especially..

Get that divorce, but stay close by.. your kids will need you once your marriage breaks up.. they are young and you should be there as much as possible.. especially if your wife is the kind of cold hearted bitch that would bad-mouth you to your little ones!

Sounds like your wife wants a divorce , on the real dude she just doesnt want to take the responsibility of being the " guilty" party.. Women are bitches and every man knows it .. Dang dude I feel bad for you I'll drink a couple brews for yout onight and smoke a fatty if that helps any .. best of luck dude ..

dud i was close to moving out after the divorce i,m glad i didnt because once your out of the house you will not see you kids enough and it will drive you crazy i moved my shit downstairs and got to see my kid everyday and now a year later me and the ex get along great and im not going anywhere..the thing is you might think it better out there with new pussy and shit but its not because it all ends the same way.you have 2 kids you love so take a break for a bit move to another part of the house if you have to..in the long run it will work out and your kids will want you to stay ..believe me dude you leave and you will see you kids every other weekend if your lucky..good luck brother :cool:

Bob you forgot to tell him to keep a jack off tube sock handy ...

It is becoming quite common to be granted "split custody" and it's actually healthier for the children than being in an environment of anger.

It's real cool that you worked it out though, Reverend. But many people are not as fortunate. thats true but dont believe that 50- 50 shit :D

Bob you forgot to tell him to keep a jack off tube sock handy ... i have more then one :)

swampthing1117 - it has crossed my mind. I just hope it is not true - I have always told her that it she ever wanted to cheat on me she should let me know and I would step away. There is too much shit (diseases) out there nowadays. I just spoke to her and her plane arrived late (so much for my dream of a plane crash), so I have to go pick up my little guy. Thanks to all who have responded. I'll check back later tonight.

thats true but dont believe that 50- 50 shit :D

Rev.. do you have full custody now?

If you want I could bang her and take pictures so you could send them to your divorce attorney. No charge for an SFN brother.

swampthing1117 - it has crossed my mind. I just hope it is not true - I have always told her that it she ever wanted to cheat on me she should let me know and I would step away. There is too much shit (diseases) out there nowadays. I just spoke to her and her plane arrived late (so much for my dream of a plane crash), so I have to go pick up my little guy. Thanks to all who have responded. I'll check back later tonight. dude you should try and make it work out for the kids if she has any king of a heart she will atleast try...i was out on my own for over a year dropping my cock in things and she hears the show and still understood whats important and we both got our shit together to make it work :cool:

If you want I could bang her and take pictures so you could send them to your divorce attorney. No charge for an SFN brother.

Hey.. that may even get you full custody!

Rev.. do you have full custody now? no i,m home still and not leaving and one day we might get married again we will see :cool:

dude you should try and make it work out for the kids if she has any king of a heart she will atleast try...i was out on my own for over a year dropping my cock in things and she hears the show and still understood whats important and we both got our shit together to make it work :cool: I headed for one 2 bob, I'll call the show when the ink dries on the papers

no i,m home still and not leaving and one day we might get married again we will see :cool:

That's good! at least you guys are getting along now..

looking at getting re-married? that would be cool.. Good luck to you!

If you want I could bang her and take pictures so you could send them to your divorce attorney. No charge for an SFN brother. thats what friends are for :D

I headed for one 2 bob, I'll call the show when the ink dries on the papers you got it :cool:

thats true but dont believe that 50- 50 shit :D

it is very difficult at best with the 50-50 thing, and you have to be able to get along with the ex.

I have seen it with two women I dated, 1 was ok, the other was a mess.

other way is to have custody as I did, but that is tough as hell too, unless you find a great woman to help out, and have a very flexible employer

Thanks Rev and lovenrockets - I don't want my sons to think that they should expect women to treat them like shit. I find myself trying to avoid confrontations with her, sometimes I feel like a kid that is going to get in trouble with their Mom when she is around. My oldest is getting sick of her shit and my little guy has already started telling her to stop being mean to me. I think I can't stay with her for their sake - she works in sales and has to be nice to people all day long, she says that when she gets home she doesn't feel like being nice anymore.

I respect what you are saying Rev, but she is the type that would make sure that I spend time with them just so I don't get over on her (that is how she thinks). I have spent very little time away from my boys and I know that I can create a better, more peaceful environment for them.
Hope you understand what I am saying devstorm.


Well then get her out of that job.
No wonder she's cold. She wants dick - NOT PUSSY!

Thanks Rev and lovenrockets - I don't want my sons to think that they should expect women to treat them like shit. I find myself trying to avoid confrontations with her, sometimes I feel like a kid that is going to get in trouble with their Mom when she is around. My oldest is getting sick of her shit and my little guy has already started telling her to stop being mean to me. I think I can't stay with her for their sake - she works in sales and has to be nice to people all day long, she says that when she gets home she doesn't feel like being nice anymore.

I respect what you are saying Rev, but she is the type that would make sure that I spend time with them just so I don't get over on her (that is how she thinks). I have spent very little time away from my boys and I know that I can create a better, more peaceful environment for them.
Hope you understand what I am saying devstorm.

Mac,

Try to always to remain true to yourself, and in turn you and your children will be happier.

It's a hard time for you right now, and the good thing about it, that it will pass.

Have you tried counseling?
Sounds like he needs a backbone too -- altho if she's been cold for years, it's probably hopeless.

small penis?

How do you stay close to your kids? You be in touch with them EVERY SINGLE DAY. Whether it be by phone or in person. That's the key.

I think I might be living in my basement soon.
That's what I get for not hooking up with a Stern fan. My wife is the definition of familiarity breeding contempt. I am a easy going, warm, person - she has been really cold for years, we have appointment sex and now I am finally feed up.

I know WAAHH, WAAHH, I just know that if I was a prick we might still be together. She will probably end up with some asshole who will treat her like shit.
How do divorced guys stay close with their kids? I have two boys 13 and 4 and I spend alot of time with them now - What do I do now? My wife is on a buisness trip and I find myself wishing that her plane goes down - I am a sick fuck. Feel free to leave advice or to bash me for being a pussy.
just cheat

nice try rev....sendin emails again

small penis? Decent penis - magic Tongue

Sounds like he needs a backbone too -- altho if she's been cold for years, it's probably hopeless.


You are probably right, I need to stand up for myself more - but with her it means constant WAR. It is hard to live that way. No excuses I am not perfect, but, trust me, people have commented to me in the past - even friends of hers- that she treats me bad. I do argue back - but again, constant war is not the way to live life.

How do you stay close to your kids? Go for full custody jackass!

Whatever you do, you should absolutely start stashing away as much cash as possible in an offshore account or even just a safe deposit box. Even if you go into the divorce settlement with the best intentions and try to make everything painless, you never know how things can turn out. You might want to give her a "fair" 50-50 split, and then for some reason everything goes kablooie and before you know it you're living like Reverend Bob.

It's not about hating her or cheating her, iit's just about protecting yourself.

Stay strong bro. Know exactly what you're feeling.

I think I might be living in my basement soon.
That's what I get for not hooking up with a Stern fan. My wife is the definition of familiarity breeding contempt. I am a easy going, warm, person - she has been really cold for years, we have appointment sex and now I am finally feed up.

I know WAAHH, WAAHH, I just know that if I was a prick we might still be together. She will probably end up with some asshole who will treat her like shit.
How do divorced guys stay close with their kids? I have two boys 13 and 4 and I spend alot of time with them now - What do I do now? My wife is on a buisness trip and I find myself wishing that her plane goes down - I am a sick fuck. Feel free to leave advice or to bash me for being a pussy.

Make the best of it until your kids graduate high school. Man up. Grow some stones.

Make the best of it until your kids graduate high school. Man up. Grow some stones.

It is not like I'm the only one deciding that it is over - I am finally geting sick of her shit. Who wants to live another 14 years like this?

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