Nothing against Rev Bob, but being on the Stern show once and a while, going on the road and eating blue cheese out of random girl's asses doesn't sound so bad to me. Who else is miserable out there, and what is your story? (Please no Waaaa posts) Here's mine:

--Work in a cubicle all day and have been at the same job for 6+ years doing the same really boring shit with a stagnent salary.
--Wife is always 'tired' and I'm lucky if I get laid once a month (and it usually isn't that great)
--Married almost 10 years (tied the knot when I was quite young) and the Mrs is always bitching about something
--I'm so fucking bored with life
--Used to be quite happy. I used to run a porn site, played in a band, hung out a lot, had a cool boat, now do nothing fun, sold the boat, left the band, sold the site. Just work and go home.

(I know I am just being a winey little ho, and things could be much worse, so maybe if you are more miserable than me, it will make me feel better)

fuck you attention whore..... :rolleyes:

--Wife is always 'tired' and I'm lucky if I get laid once a month (and it usually isn't that great)

I just don't get these wives that won't give it up, but freak if they even know their man is jerking off! No wonder guys will cheat...gotta give up the pussy, I mean, the rest of your life is a really long time to be sexless...

Well, what have you done lately to show your wife you love her and that you want more then anything to make love to her?

Dude, five years ago my life was waaaaaaaaaaaaaaay worse than that. Get over it.

wow, once a month. Sorry to hear that. Thats not good. :(

I just don't get these wives that won't give it up, but freak if they even know their man is jerking off! No wonder guys will cheat...gotta give up the pussy, I mean, the rest of your life is a really long time to be sexless...

Well Said! ;)

I just don't get these wives that won't give it up

Get up at 6 am, get the kids up, dressed, fed, off to school. Get in the car, do all your running around with a baby tied to your hip, mean while she's screaming bloody murder. Get back home just in time to meet the kids at the bus, with food and milk all over your shirt. Start dinner, while that is cooking help with home work. Eat dinner, clean up dinner, get the kids a bath, in PJ's, and in to bed. Then, you get a shower yourself FINALLY. Sit down and rest for the first time that day. Sex isn't usually going to be the first thing on your mind. Not defending a sexless marriage, but, i can see how it can happen.

Get up at 6 am, get the kids up, dressed, fed, off to school. Get in the car, do all your running around with a baby tied to your hip, mean while she's screaming bloody murder. Get back home just in time to meet the kids at the bus, with food and milk all over your shirt. Start dinner, while that is cooking help with home work. Eat dinner, clean up dinner, get the kids a bath, in PJ's, and in to bed. Then, you get a shower yourself FINALLY. Sit down and rest for the first time that day. Sex isn't usually going to be the first thing on your mind. Not defending a sexless marriage, but, i can see how it can happen.

I do understand all of that. I think it is important to make that time sometime though. But I guess my main irritation is the wives' that can't deal with their man jacking off. I have heard of this a lot and I think it's ridiculous. I'm not giving it up, but you can't get your release either...

She doesn't care too much about me jacking off, but last week, I was all fired up and couldn't sleep so I went down stairs to deal with myself to some porn on the computer, and she woke up and thought I was sneaking around and 'chatting with babes on the internet'. Didn't talk to me the next day.

She doesn't care too much about me jacking off, but last week, I was all fired up and couldn't sleep so I went down stairs to deal with myself to some porn on the computer, and she woke up and thought I was sneaking around and 'chatting with babes on the internet'. Didn't talk to me the next day.

sounds like she did you a favor :D

Well, what have you done lately to show your wife you love her and that you want more then anything to make love to her?
She's played the 'you're not romantic anymore' card, but neither is she. She used do all kinds of cool shit (blow me in the car, dress up, meet me at the door naked) and I sure as hell didn't do anything 'romantic' for that stuff. I've done the flowers for no reason thing, and for Valetines day a few years ago, I took her to french resteraunt overlooking the water, got her a new, fat diamond ring (I didn't have a job/money when we were engaged so her other diamiond wasn't much), and to top it off, our wedding song played when I gave her the ring at the resteraunt (lucky coincidence), and she loved it, but it didn't equate to anything physical.

Dude, five years ago my life was waaaaaaaaaaaaaaay worse than that. Get over it.
I know man. I'll get over it. I'm just in a bad fucking mood and felt like bitching rather than sitting here all day and going home pissed off. (posting this shit is sometimes better than seeing a shrink)

and she woke up and thought I was sneaking around and 'chatting with babes on the internet'. Didn't talk to me the next day.

So if you get in trouble for not even doing it, you might as well do it next time! :D

Dr. Laura says there is no excuse to not please your man. If the women complain they are "tired," she says go to the doctor to see if there is something wrong. Take vitamins, etc. You should always have enough energy to make your partner happy (she doesn't mean every second of the day, but on a regular normal basis).

Maybe your wife gets no sexual satisfaction from your love making, so she sees nothing in it for her. Ever talk about that?

Nothing against Rev Bob, but being on the Stern show once and a while, going on the road and eating blue cheese out of random girl's asses doesn't sound so bad to me. Who else is miserable out there, and what is your story? (Please no Waaaa posts) Here's mine:

--Work in a cubicle all day and have been at the same job for 6+ years doing the same really boring shit with a stagnent salary.
--Wife is always 'tired' and I'm lucky if I get laid once a month (and it usually isn't that great)
--Married almost 10 years (tied the knot when I was quite young) and the Mrs is always bitching about something
--I'm so fucking bored with life
--Used to be quite happy. I used to run a porn site, played in a band, hung out a lot, had a cool boat, now do nothing fun, sold the boat, left the band, sold the site. Just work and go home.

(I know I am just being a winey little ho, and things could be much worse, so maybe if you are more miserable than me, it will make me feel better)

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Your second marriage will be better. Till then;

It surprises me that all you SFNers are being way too nice. Sucks to be you chief.

Get up at 6 am, get the kids up, dressed, fed, off to school. Get in the car, do all your running around with a baby tied to your hip, mean while she's screaming bloody murder. Get back home just in time to meet the kids at the bus, with food and milk all over your shirt. Start dinner, while that is cooking help with home work. Eat dinner, clean up dinner, get the kids a bath, in PJ's, and in to bed. Then, you get a shower yourself FINALLY. Sit down and rest for the first time that day. Sex isn't usually going to be the first thing on your mind. Not defending a sexless marriage, but, i can see how it can happen. :bigclap:

Add to that: Husband is travelling........not home.........

Maybe your wife gets no sexual satisfaction from your love making, so she sees nothing in it for her. Ever talk about that?

Yeah. That has come to mind, but it's always been 'its not you', and, barring the last few times, when we do 'do it', she gets off and goes nuts like her old self. Then again, she probably wouldn't tell me otherwise.


BTW, I thought I would start this thread and hear of stories way worse than mine. Now I'm feeling a bit shittier.

Nothing against Rev Bob, but being on the Stern show once and a while, going on the road and eating blue cheese out of random girl's asses doesn't sound so bad to me. Who else is miserable out there, and what is your story? (Please no Waaaa posts) Here's mine:

--Work in a cubicle all day and have been at the same job for 6+ years doing the same really boring shit with a stagnent salary.
--Wife is always 'tired' and I'm lucky if I get laid once a month (and it usually isn't that great)
--Married almost 10 years (tied the knot when I was quite young) and the Mrs is always bitching about something
--I'm so fucking bored with life
--Used to be quite happy. I used to run a porn site, played in a band, hung out a lot, had a cool boat, now do nothing fun, sold the boat, left the band, sold the site. Just work and go home.

(I know I am just being a winey little ho, and things could be much worse, so maybe if you are more miserable than me, it will make me feel better)

Did you talk to her about it?
In a non-confrontational way, tell her you feel you should be having more sex for the sake of your marriage.
A few years ago, my wife and I slowed down to about once or twice a month.So I talked to her about it. She told me that sex "wasn't in her thoughts" much anymore. I said that I want to have sex with her 2 to 3 times a week. Well, we tried it. Within a month, she was thanking me for bringing it up. It's been about two years, and I still wake up some mornings dehydrated...

If you ain't taking care of your man (or woman), somebody else will. A hungry dog only stays hungry so long before he goes lookin for a meal.

Well you need to talk about it with her. If she isn't enjoying it as much, ask if she wants to try someone fun and different. Do you guys have any toys? Does she have a vibrator?

:bigclap:

Add to that: Husband is travelling........not home.........

Of course he is, who would seriously want to be at home with all that crap going on. How many kids? More than 2 under 7 yrs old I cant blame him.

Yeah. That has come to mind, but it's always been 'its not you', and, barring the last few times, when we do 'do it', she gets off and goes nuts like her old self. Then again, she probably wouldn't tell me otherwise.


BTW, I thought I would start this thread and hear of stories way worse than mine. Now I'm feeling a bit shittier.

ok buddy, this should make you feel better. i was horny as hell but my wife wasn't interested. i figured if i started jerking off when we were in bed she would get the message and help me out. i start whacking away and she rolls over and tells me to stop shaking the bed and go finish in the bathroom. :mad: feel better now?

Well you need to talk about it with her. If she isn't enjoying it as much, ask if she wants to try someone fun and different. Do you guys have any toys? Does she have a vibrator?

I think that may be part of the problem. We have been together for a very long time (we were teenagers when we started dating and are now in our early 30's) and are both somewhat freakish. We've done some swinging, 3-somes, she has an arsenal of toys, and maybe are just a little bored with each other when its just us. We have kids, both work, and do not really get to go out w/o the kids much, but when we do get to get a little wild (the last time was this past winter with another couple in their hot tub) we seem to have great sex for the next month or two. We both agree that we want to do more of that type of stuff, but it just very difficult to line up and pull it off. She is against settnig things up with people on the internet through AdultFriendFinder or similar sites for several reasons, (not many attractive people, could be dangerous, ect) and I kind of agree with her. Maybe we are just in a bad rut.

Of course he is, who would seriously want to be at home with all that crap going on. How many kids? More than 2 under 7 yrs old I cant blame him.

:rolleyes: shit mult